Uncertainty is a powerful space. It can feel as though you’ve forgotten to exhale as you’re waiting for the reprieve of certainty. I detest speaking in absolutes, and it is rare to find someone who genuinely enjoys uncertainty. Many learn to accept the reality that there are endless unknowns in the world, while acknowledging this can be a difficult truth. For some in their past, uncertainty has meant potential death, making uncertainty in the present unbearable. When uncertainty is unbearable, we use what is at our disposable to create certainty. This becomes problematic for people who struggle with vulnerability and

Why Do We Dissociate? Dissociation as Evolution’s Adaptive Last Resort Imagine you’re a child who has just been kidnapped and locked in a room. You move into action: you scream for help, try to find anything to break the door or window that is bolted shut, and search the room for hours, hoping to find something you missed, yet you are still locked in the room. There’s nothing left to be done; there is nowhere to flee, no one to fight, and no one to appease. There is just the unavoidable reality of being locked in a room you cannot

There’s a moment in the room therapists experience at one point or another: a client is trying to understand why someone in their life treated them in a specific way and suddenly, you’re pulling apart the person’s behavior with them. For example, let’s say you’re sitting with your client who has a history of experiencing infidelity in multiple relationships and they begin talking about how their girlfriend said they were going to spend time with their friend, but never mentioned the gender of their friend: “They didn’t want me to know. They’re hiding it from me.” ”I can imagine there’s